Tuesday, 1 December 2015

Role of a Man in the Family

Let me start by congratulating us for starting the last month of the year in good health even as we look at a very critical topic today. 
Ephesians 5:25 says, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her." The most important thing a man can do for his wife is to love her, and loving her means protecting her.
When you love your wife, you cover her gaps. This doesn't mean you shouldn't correct her. That's why you are the head of  your family. Scold her, point out all the areas in her life that need correction. Note that correction is different from humiliation.
One thing you should never do is to leave a wound in her heart while scolding her. Truth be told, some of us are actually the architect of our own misfortune but believe me, you are the only one that can help her overcome her shortcomings. Remember no one is perfect, only God is.  Some husbands expose their wives to external danger in the process of correction. The couple will always make up, but what happens after you make up with your wife? You would have left her in the hands of people that will never forgive her. These people love you so much that they try to protect you but you have forgotten that a part of you is already endangered. That is why communication is key in every relationship. If an information is misunderstood by the person it is meant for, there is definitely no communication. 

Communication happens only when a message is clearly passed from one mind to another. Also remember that it is always not the matter at hand that leads to misunderstanding, it is the interpretation and response that leads to big misunderstanding.After loving your wife, you must serve her. One of the best ways to serve your wife is to understand her feelings and needs then try to meet them. When a woman loves her husband genuinely, she sees him as a shelter. The way a child runs to his/her mother for protection is the same way a wife looks up to her husband for protection even after she has goofed. Your job as a husband is to cover her shame first, then punish her afterwards. 

Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh,but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does his church because we are members of his body Ephesians 5:22-30

Above all, build the attitude of prayer in your family. When a family prays together enemies flee such family. 
May God increase our wisdom in handling issues IJN.
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