Sunday, 27 September 2015

Forgiveness in Marriage


I spoke about fighting in marriage in my last post, and I'm sure you understood why it's important to give room for occasional quarrels in your marriage. It makes you stronger, wiser and know yourselves better. No two people are the same, and so we need to understand the logic behind God's instruction about the institution.
Both the husband and the wife are from two different backgrounds and so they need to always remember that they were raised by different families  with different values. BUT there must be a mid point. 
After the misunderstanding and all, couples must learn to forgive eachother regardless of who was right or wrong. 
Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action), pardoning (granted by a representative of society, such as a judge), forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship). It's simply the act of letting go of the pains in our hearts. It might be so difficult to forget what happened and the consequences of the actions that led to the pains, but it's very easy to forgive. 

So, forgiveness in marriage is an important aspect of every marriage. When two individuals are able to forgive each other, it results to a long happy relationship. Forgiveness can help prevent problems from accruing in the married couple's future. Even the bible says in Matt 18:22 that we must forgive people who hurt us seventy times seven times.  
Therefore, find it in your heart today to forgive your spouse. He might not be the perfect man or woman you desire but the truth is, he/she is your partner and it is your responsibility to make your marriage work. My prayer today is that God will give us a forgiving heart and help us mend every broken wall in our marriages in Jesus Name. 

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